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Beautiful article!! At 77 years I found an old picture and on the back my mother had written wrong date for my DOB!! Or maybe not?? I don’t care. I’m 40 years old in my mind, 80 in my body most days and very old in my soul. That’s what I think matters. Love this writing. You’ve got it !!!! Doc.

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Thank you so much! And that's an interesting way of putting it — love the different ages you assign to mind, body, and soul. Thanks for your perspective!

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As always, beautifully written and resonant.

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Thank you so much, Nancy!!

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All great points. We are nowhere near accepting the natural superficial (cosmetic) aging process in women. Aging is still seen largely as a loss of beauty to be mourned, corrected or shunned. I find the physical infirmities of aging to be much harder to manage! I looked up the older models you cited; Benedetta Barzini is a fascinating woman with many opinions on this same topic and others, see https://www.interviewmagazine.com/film/benedetta-barzini-the-disappearance-of-my-mother-beniamino-barrese

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Thanks for sharing, I hadn't seen that! And thanks for reading! You're so right — what's truly hard about aging is the physical infirmities, and yet we focus so much on looks. We still have such a long way to go.

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I’m so glad I found this! I have been searching for articles on aging and being an older women for the English conversation class I hold every week here where I live (Swedish speaking Finland) for a group of women aged 60-83. They’re all wonderful examples of how one can age well and in different ways. I’m always looking for good writing and interesting topics. So yay! Thank you 🤩

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Wonderful, thank you! I hope my articles will be helpful.

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Yes, at 58 I am more me ! Ax

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Awesome! The 60s are even better!!

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That is the plan Ax

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Isabella Rossellini is in one of my favorite movies of all time, “Fearless.” She played Jeff Bridges’ wife. Amazing.

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Another movie I haven't seen! I'll have to check it out. I loved "Blue Velvet" when it came out and saw it multiple times.

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If you like her, you should check it out sometime. Plus it's just a phenomenal movie. I remember sitting in the theater with my friend Paul and about the 15 minute mark, we turned to each other and said, "Movie of the year."

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Thanks so much! That's a good point — we now see models of all sizes. That wasn't reflected so much in "And Just Like That," but it's a general trend!

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